Originally Posted by
iheartsushi 
Firstly, I did not type "mommy" and do not appreciate you minimizing that relationship. We are in our 40s and all of our families are quite close. I was merely suggesting that if her mother were aware of the situations we could put our heads together .. and maybe .. JUST MAYBE .. if my friend knew I would go that far to bring her mother up to speed that she would take action.
Secondly, I listen because I care deeply for her .. for them both. I will always be there for my friends. How is that illogical?
I understand that you're wanting to act out of love, but I, and others on this board, have acted out of the same deep caring for our friends, spouses, families, and have all prevented them from achieving that much needed "bottom"....the realization that they need to help themselves.
You can still love your friend deeply and support her, but you do not have to keep supporting her addiction to her boyfriend.