Originally Posted by smacked

Maybe if you feel so strongly about her, and care about her.. you could back off and allow her to pursue her own recovery journey. There is nothing you can do to help, and only lots you can do to enable her continued drama and things you say you want to avoid.

I think when you were asked about attending meetings, we were wondering about meetings for YOU, alanon.. not AA. It's really not your business or your place to attend meetings with your ex girlfriend, who's alcoholism you're wanting to avoid..??!