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Hi and welcome! Sorry about your situation, but I would like to speak on you fiancés behalf. I recently married the most wonderful lady in my life, but not till after I had gone through detox and was sober, well this past weekend I relapsed and am starting over. When I drink I change, I am not the person she fell in love with but she knows this is a disease and it’s an everyday battle. I never ever in a sober mind would hurt my wife or make her feel bad, but when I drink the hatred for myself is so powerful it makes me hate everyone. I can tell you what has helped me, because I know words are easy to say and from a drunk, words are just lies. Please talk to him, tell him how it’s hurting you and that you don’t want this lifestyle for you and you child. I know it maybe hard to do but you need to think about yourself because all us drunks do is think about ourselves when we are kickin back the sauce. I don’t know if anything I have said helps, but I feel for you and I have tremendous pain in myself for what I have done but alcoholics are not the people we appear to be when we drink. All in all, for me having the law laid down from my wonderful wife is what keeps me trying. She will never leave me as long as I try but when I give then I know she will.
Peace and good luck!
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