Snick, what Eddie said.
Also, AA almost ruined my relationship with my s/o. She felt left behind and out. That I wasn't spending enough time with her.
However...... I needed (and still do) those meetings to stay sober. I have discussed this with her and she now realizes that she has alot more of me going to AA then she ever had with me drinking. Now, when she needs me the most (and she'll let me know), I'll skip a meeting here and there.
Like Eddie said, can you bring this up in the open?
Again, like Eddie said...... why doncha head over to the Al Anon forum? You need to take care of you. As I'm sure you know, its a family disease.