unfortunately i cannot relate but instead wnated to welcome you to this site. just wait a while and they will start coming with their stories and advice. many recovering alcoholics on here and if you keep searching you will find a place for loved ones of recovering addicts and alcoholics. one piece of advice i have for you:never stop supporting. alcoholism is nasty and your husband is doing great to be sober for threee years. however, having said that you need support yourself and i hope you find some here.
sorry i couldn't help much
audra