Wow, thanks everybody for your shares. I am so glad to know I am not alone.
In dealing with people with addictions in my personal life, I allowed myself to continue my bad behavior toward them, because look how WRONG they all are!!! I mean, ANYONE can see how wrong nearly EVERYthing they do is!
I think, too, that when I and my life have been so entrenched in a relationship with an alcoholic or addict (or other very unhealthy person such as a sociopath), my self-esteem has been WAY low. And without the proper tools, I still used unhealthy ways of dealing with the situation, including being self-righteous. What a horrible way I used to live my life. I am so glad I got sober. I am so glad I found Al-Anon. I am so glad I had enough foresight and courage to work on my financial health.
Thanks for listening.