I am definitely a wine-a-holic, but have come to realize that makes me just as much an alcoholic. This is just me, though. I also drink to relieve stress, but like you, I was NEEDING it.
I haven't drank in 9 days, which doesn't seem like much, but I feel fabulous. I'm not saying it's been easy. Watching True Blood on Sunday was almost torture, since that's my red wine night. But the clearheadedness and lightheartedness I feel is worth more than the pleasure and comfort wine brings me. I just have to remember that.
Good luck with whatever path you choose.