Originally Posted by
Still Waters 
My AH became more abusive once he was dry. I assume it's because his brain was no longer sodden with alcohol and it could think up even more nasty things to do to us.
As far as I'm concerned there is no cure for abusers. So the only fix for you is to remove yourself from the abuse.
Same here, his emotional abuse got worse when he got dry.
Though in my case, I still believe he will grow and realize his abuse. He's dry, not yet recovered, though I doubt I'll stick around long enough to see if he ever realizes his abuse, cause truthfully, I don't think he even realizes how manipulative and emotionally abusive he is.
He acts out of hurt more than the need for power