I admitted i was an alcoholic in the bars, to family and friends...the first time i said i was an alcoholic was at 20...i couldn't get sober until i accepted it.
Acceptance in sobriety causes me less pain, in fact when i do truly accept i feel no pain. It is a practical learning experience for me in sobriety, like getting an electric shock and being able to determine how long the shock lasts...only able to shorten, hopefully one day eliminate, the pain by working the steps and having a close contact with God.