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veracious · 03-10-2010, 02:37 PM

I just want to say that i think its great that you are going to counseling and to alanon. I would also like to mention that you should remind yourself that the focus needs to be on you. It sounds like you are doing the same thing that i have caught myself doing and that is focusing on the other person. Trust me that he is going to be miserable no matter what he may be doing without you. He needs to heal and fix his own issues while you work on yours. Its not easy but it does help. When you truly start working on yourself you will realize what he does or doesnt do wont matter anymore. You need to love and take care of yourself if you dont who else will?

03-10-2010, 02:37 PM	#6 (permalink)
veracious Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: portland, oregon Posts: 59	Lulu I just want to say that i think its great that you are going to counseling and to alanon. I would also like to mention that you should remind yourself that the focus needs to be on you. It sounds like you are doing the same thing that i have caught myself doing and that is focusing on the other person. Trust me that he is going to be miserable no matter what he may be doing without you. He needs to heal and fix his own issues while you work on yours. Its not easy but it does help. When you truly start working on yourself you will realize what he does or doesnt do wont matter anymore. You need to love and take care of yourself if you dont who else will?