Haha Fandy, I do understand your fury! Well, the ironing, etc. was my metaphor for more abstract 'pleasing the expectations' e.g. not being annoyed when he is stressed and has a go at me, being understanding and loving when inside I'm boiling, but he needs me to be calm; and I do it because I try to see things from his point of view and make his 'life' a bit easier. It is so much harder for me, since I stopped drinking and have so many other demons to tackle. Nevertheless, he does not see it from my point of view, and thinks selfishly, from one egoistic point of view. That's what bothers me.
No mortgage or cars involved really, neither do I expect or want it. I think he could greatly gain from a little Fandy beating ;-)
But seriously, there is a lot to think about for me. Of course, this is not the whole story, but just a little cut out that I felt at this particular moment. One day at the time Fandy... before I put my boxing gloves on
