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Originally Posted by Lenina  I think sometimes we women get confused about who we are.
...learned how to define myself in a healthy way.
...It took a long time for me to have healthy relationships in sobriety. |
As women, so much of our lives revolve around men, we often get confused about who we are. As addicts/alcoholics, it distorts that confusion tenfold. As Lenina said, it's a learning process to be healthy in a relationship and to have a healthy relationship.
For me, that's why I'm on your past no-men path, Jam. I'm fully aware that I don't have what it takes right now to be in a productive, healthy relationship. I'm also aware that men are my #1 downfall.
So I stay away. And I work on my sickness and getting better. And I learn enough over time (I hope!), with help and support, so that I can be involved in a quality relationship a ways down the road. Because I think all of us deserve that opportunity.