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jamdls · 03-09-2010, 03:18 PM

Sex and drinking ALWAYS went together for me, I rarely had 1 w/o the other. 6 months before I quit drinking I was "date raped" I guess, wasn't even a date, this neighbor came over we both got drunk I remember saying "no" and I passed out or blacked-out; woke up the next morning and knew what had happened. I sold my house about 2 weeks later and never saw him again. I gave up men at that point then about 6 months later gave up alcohol. Well here I am 2.5 yrs sober and wanting to date and have a "prospect" in the wings...BUT I'm afraid to date because I'm afraid it will lead me back to alcohol. I'm already thinking that common stupid thought "I could probably drink just socially now". I haven't told this person about my problem yet as I don't want to scare him away.
So my question is: Would you, if necessary "agree" to never having a partner in your life if that was the only way to guarantee your sobriety?
I honestly think that may be the only way to guarantee I will never drink again and it makes me sad.

03-09-2010, 03:18 PM	#1 (permalink)
jamdls Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Dallas, Tx Posts: 2,154 Blog Entries: 2	Men? or solitude Sex and drinking ALWAYS went together for me, I rarely had 1 w/o the other. 6 months before I quit drinking I was "date raped" I guess, wasn't even a date, this neighbor came over we both got drunk I remember saying "no" and I passed out or blacked-out; woke up the next morning and knew what had happened. I sold my house about 2 weeks later and never saw him again. I gave up men at that point then about 6 months later gave up alcohol. Well here I am 2.5 yrs sober and wanting to date and have a "prospect" in the wings...BUT I'm afraid to date because I'm afraid it will lead me back to alcohol. I'm already thinking that common stupid thought "I could probably drink just socially now". I haven't told this person about my problem yet as I don't want to scare him away. So my question is: Would you, if necessary "agree" to never having a partner in your life if that was the only way to guarantee your sobriety? I honestly think that may be the only way to guarantee I will never drink again and it makes me sad. __________________ ~~~Judy~~~ "Failure is not falling down but refusing to get up" "With God all things are possible"