| I have been sick.
12 months ago he acknowledged he had a problem, had some counselling, said he would stop...quack quack quack. We did not live together except for weekends for the year. 5-6 weeks ago after not living together we moved together with my 15yo to a new town with new jobs. An exciting career move for me with good money.
His drinking that had been hidden from me for the past 12 months became glaringly obvious and I started stating my boundaries and following through For example not sleeping in the same bed when he chose to drink. Disengaging when he drinks. He states he does not have a problem, has no intention to go to meetings, read or change.
I felt things coming to a head with me wanting to end the relationship and he tried to initiate a talk but I asked for 2 weeks to settle into my new job before we had "The Talk"
Well lo and behold at the 2 week mark almost to the dot I got sick. Very sick with pnemonia. He was to drunk to drive me to Emergency, the *****, so I drove myself. I was just discharged yesterday. I also lost my vioce completely. so as a consequence we still haven't had the talk. LOL I cant speak. I am so mad!
He hasn't contributed one cent to rent or household expences even though he is working full time. I feel used and taken for granted. He didn't bring my daughter up once to see me in hospital.
Now that I can clearly see what the problems are in our relationship and have defined my bottom line how quickly I have gone from loving this person to hating him.
So I am waiting for my voice to return. Things are horrible at home. he drinks My DD and i hate him.
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