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FreeBird09 · 11-26-2009, 06:36 PM

Hi, as many of you know my oldest son is an alcoholic. He is 24. Tonight he called me just to talk, which isn't often. We are close, but we don't usually talk on the phone. He said, you know Mom I have a drinking problem! (woah! my head said!, but I didn't voice it). He said, I sit here and my mind starts thinking. I NEED A BEER. He said, now I KNOW I don't NEED a beer but I listen to my thoughts and walk to the store and GET BEER. He said, now I know that I can beat this, but the thoughts pop up at weird times that tells me I NEED to drink. He went on to tell me about his episodes of passing out, blacking out (which I knew, as we live in a small town) and how he doesn't want to live like that any more. I told him that I know he can do it. He said he was worried about his little brother (my youngest) doing the same thing. He said Mom, it starts out being a fun thing and becomes this habit you can't seem to control. He says. ITS BAD!. I again agreed, but didn't try to take control and tell him WHAT to do about it, or how to do it. I just let him know that he can do it, for himself and for his family. (he has 2 kids).

On other thoughts. I found out nearly 3 weeks ago that my axbf was seeing someone while in the relationship with me. I was devastated. I have been crying since. I truly believed this man, even thought he may be a drunk I still believe that he was an honest drunk. Stupid of me. I cry just thinking about it, writing about it. I should be over this (after 16 months apart), but this new information really hurts deep to the core. I did call him when I found this out. He begged me to listen to him, that he swears on God that he did NOT sleep with, or has NOT slept with anyone since we have been together, or apart. I just told him that I hate him and to never contact me again.

Other news. It has been 2 months, or a little less that I quit smoking. I gained 10 lbs, but it's all good. I have not had ONE puff on a smoke, I did it cold turkey!!

I cried all day today. Holidays are hard to be alone. My kids have their own plans and I wish I had someone to hold. BUT, not an alcoholic or a liar.

11-26-2009, 06:36 PM	#1 (permalink)
FreeBird09 I grew my wings to fly... Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: STATE OF CONTENTMENT Posts: 289	My oldest son, and other things... Hi, as many of you know my oldest son is an alcoholic. He is 24. Tonight he called me just to talk, which isn't often. We are close, but we don't usually talk on the phone. He said, you know Mom I have a drinking problem! (woah! my head said!, but I didn't voice it). He said, I sit here and my mind starts thinking. I NEED A BEER. He said, now I KNOW I don't NEED a beer but I listen to my thoughts and walk to the store and GET BEER. He said, now I know that I can beat this, but the thoughts pop up at weird times that tells me I NEED to drink. He went on to tell me about his episodes of passing out, blacking out (which I knew, as we live in a small town) and how he doesn't want to live like that any more. I told him that I know he can do it. He said he was worried about his little brother (my youngest) doing the same thing. He said Mom, it starts out being a fun thing and becomes this habit you can't seem to control. He says. ITS BAD!. I again agreed, but didn't try to take control and tell him WHAT to do about it, or how to do it. I just let him know that he can do it, for himself and for his family. (he has 2 kids). On other thoughts. I found out nearly 3 weeks ago that my axbf was seeing someone while in the relationship with me. I was devastated. I have been crying since. I truly believed this man, even thought he may be a drunk I still believe that he was an honest drunk. Stupid of me. I cry just thinking about it, writing about it. I should be over this (after 16 months apart), but this new information really hurts deep to the core. I did call him when I found this out. He begged me to listen to him, that he swears on God that he did NOT sleep with, or has NOT slept with anyone since we have been together, or apart. I just told him that I hate him and to never contact me again. Other news. It has been 2 months, or a little less that I quit smoking. I gained 10 lbs, but it's all good. I have not had ONE puff on a smoke, I did it cold turkey!! I cried all day today. Holidays are hard to be alone. My kids have their own plans and I wish I had someone to hold. BUT, not an alcoholic or a liar. __________________ :praying