[JenT1968]

I don't want someone who worships me, I think that would be kind of creepy LOL, but I do want someone who wants to spend roughly the same amount of time with me that I want to spend with them.

Wants being the operative word. Making someone spend time with me doesn't sound fun. Clearly these things evolve and change over time, and sensible adult conversations can be had from time to time if one or other is feeling unhappy at the balance.

I'm not a spend-every-minute-with-some-one-else type of person (some people are and that's fine, its just wouldn't work for me), I'm also fairly sure I couldn't maintain a relationship with a polar explorer or a professional athlete or anything else that required an immense amount of focus and time away from the rest of life (some people can and that's fine: its just not me). So I am not going to chose to be with these people.

Sounds like he needs a lot of time away from your relationship. Can you accept that this is who he is and be happy with the relationship or not? either decision is yours and is valid.