I can relate to being left for the "other woman" of addiction.
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Apart from the fact that he spends so little time with us, he is a good listener, he's kind, gentle, and has never asked for money.
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My AH also has attributes that I adored. Many of them, until the ugliness crept in at least.
My list of acceptable and desirable traits in a partner is now much longer and specific than it use to be. In fact, it's very specific and I won't settle until I've got the checklist completed.
LOVES me, adores and openly worships me actually
Delights in my quirky ways
Loves, adores and is endlessly patient and wise with my children
Drop dead handsome
Smart (at least as smart as I am)
Funny but not crude
Good listener, very thoughtful
Kind, gentle
Fiscally responsible..
you see where I'm going.
For me, the thought of finally being free of this insane relationship I had, of being free from my obsession with AH, is a true miracle. If I can do that, I can call the man who is perfect for me to me.
Thanks for posting. Hope you're having fun with your kids today! they really will be gone before you know it.