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In my experience, and I have some, step WAY back, stop thinking, the past is GONE.
This is a chance for an amends, not a relationship, if after a year or two, or maybe even longer it evolves into something NEW that's different.
I have seen this dozens of times, have participated in one or two and when rushed it's never not a train wreck.
Never.
This I have seen with my own eyes repeatedly.
Usually it's GREAT for awhile then worse then it ever was, and yes, these are people in sobriety, I come from a large sexually active fellowship, this is old hat.
Listen to Freya, also I'd suggest reading that bit in the BB where it says: "being new in conscious contact with our creator we are apt to make some howling doozies where we think we know God's will."
I am not saying don't do it, I am saying SLOW DOWN and do NOT listen to your head and that "God's will" bosh when it comes to selfish desires and satisfying your relationship needs.
If you are meant to be together, nothing will keep you apart, and if you aren't nothing will keep you together (except for my vast stupidity and stubborness as I bark at the barn door years after the horse should have been allowed to leave)
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