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coping123 · 11-11-2009, 03:32 PM

Thanks to you both OtherHalf7 & Cynay... I needed to make sure my head was in the right place and my codie head didn't take over. We talked about him needing his own space and, although he said he didn't need it, he relocated to the couch last night and this weekend we're setting up my spare room for him. He says he respects my feelings and understands where I'm at and how it is effecting me.... although he needed a prod to get up and move to the couch because I knew he didn't want to... I know he'll be happy about the change once it all sinks in. He's gone to 2 AA meetings in a row now and plans two more for the week - so far so good.

I think about it sometimes that if I would have known about his disease from the get go, I probably would not have accepted that first date. With all of the research I've done in the last month on alcoholism & the steps I've taken to 'understand' his disease, I'm glad I did accept that first date; it's brought to light my codie way of thinking that I've been trying to shake for years - and now I'm on my 3rd codie book & it's working wonders with my attitude. Everything truly does happen for a reason.

There are so many people in this world that do not understand or do not want to understand the alcoholic mind - I'm grateful for being one of the ones that does. It's made me a much better person overall.

Thanks again.

11-11-2009, 03:32 PM	#6 (permalink)
coping123 Detached since 10.13.09 Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: NW Illinois Posts: 20	Thanks to you both OtherHalf7 & Cynay... I needed to make sure my head was in the right place and my codie head didn't take over. We talked about him needing his own space and, although he said he didn't need it, he relocated to the couch last night and this weekend we're setting up my spare room for him. He says he respects my feelings and understands where I'm at and how it is effecting me.... although he needed a prod to get up and move to the couch because I knew he didn't want to... I know he'll be happy about the change once it all sinks in. He's gone to 2 AA meetings in a row now and plans two more for the week - so far so good. I think about it sometimes that if I would have known about his disease from the get go, I probably would not have accepted that first date. With all of the research I've done in the last month on alcoholism & the steps I've taken to 'understand' his disease, I'm glad I did accept that first date; it's brought to light my codie way of thinking that I've been trying to shake for years - and now I'm on my 3rd codie book & it's working wonders with my attitude. Everything truly does happen for a reason. There are so many people in this world that do not understand or do not want to understand the alcoholic mind - I'm grateful for being one of the ones that does. It's made me a much better person overall. Thanks again.