Thank you Cynay; sometimes, I think "if I had known" I would have never accepted that first date. He said he got sober "for me and his son", and I told him he HAD to get sober for himself. I know there is nothing I can do other than love him and pray, and I know that we can't have a relationship while he's not sober. The hardest part, for me, is that helpless feeling. I'm a natural fighter...have to be, as a single working mom. I can only imagine how hard this is for him, but I've accepted he's grown and has to fight his own battles. I wish he would find some kind of support system where he is, but can't force him. Thanks again for YOUR support
