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**DesertEyes** · 11-08-2009, 10:35 PM

Hello there bumblebee, and pleased to "meet" you.

I think you're right, there are many ways of dealing with the extreme grief of losing your spouse that are _not_ self-destructive. I don't think you're being selfish at all, I think you are very observant and you are afraid for her health and her life. That is not selfish, that is very loving.

As to who _you_ can talk to? I agree with Wabbit, al-anon are the experts on dealing with a parent who is actively drinking. You can find out a lot of information on the subject right "next door" in the friends and family forum.

Friends and Family of Alcoholics - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information

check them out and let us know what you think.

Mike

11-08-2009, 10:35 PM	#3 (permalink)
DesertEyes Starting over Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: Starting over all over again Posts: 3,112	Hello there bumblebee, and pleased to "meet" you. I think you're right, there are many ways of dealing with the extreme grief of losing your spouse that are _not_ self-destructive. I don't think you're being selfish at all, I think you are very observant and you are afraid for her health and her life. That is not selfish, that is very loving. As to who _you_ can talk to? I agree with Wabbit, al-anon are the experts on dealing with a parent who is actively drinking. You can find out a lot of information on the subject right "next door" in the friends and family forum. Friends and Family of Alcoholics - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information check them out and let us know what you think. Mike __________________ Sunsets are not endings. If I have enough faith, they are beginnings.

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