[teke]

hi, sorry i can't answer your questions but i can share my esp, as a recovering addict, i can say that the life of addiction is a miserable life to live. depression sometimes comes when the addict is crashing or craving. if it gets too severe, maybe he can see a doctor. is he following a plan of recovery or is he trying to quit on his own? there is not much you can do to help him, he'll have to help himself.

if i had to make a suggestion, it would be to watch his actions and not words. follow your gut feelings about whether or not he may be using and do what ever you need to do to take care of you and your kids. have you attended any alanon/naranon support meetings for yourself yet? if not, now is a good time to start. keep the focus on you, he's gonna do what he's gonna do.

you are not to blame for any of his actions and imo, that also includes his infidelity. remember to protect yourself, your finances and your kids. you and your family are in my prayers