Hi Kathie
I'm sorry for your situation. I think it's very important you take care of you.
We have Family and Friends forums here. I really urge you to take a look - you'll find a lot of people in similar situations, with a lot of help, support and experience to share
Friends and Family of Substance Abusers - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information
Welcome to SR!
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