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Hi alwayswaiting,
i'm sorry you're going through this and i don't know if i can give any good advise because honnestly i myself have been struggling with this same dilemna for 10 YEARS and i still don't have the answer!
Except that for sure the priority should always be YOU because you cannot rely on him and, even after rehab, you have no guarantee this is it.
I have been with my abf (also heroin addict) for 10 years and we've been through all the phases. I have done the "detach with love", the "kick him out of the house", the "support no matter what" etc...
What i know is with all that, i have learnt to live on my own and to be content with myself. If he's there, fine, if not, also fine (but less fine because, let's face it, i still love him like crazy)
It'd be a good thing to let him be for a while and see how it goes later on (but do not put your hope too high, i know it s**** but from my experience, my abf went 4 times in rehab and has relapse too many times and is now in prison - so to say the least: it's madness and draining life to love an addict!)
Take care of you
Carine
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