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barb dwyer · 11-06-2009, 05:04 PM

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How hard that must have been to write for you!
But what a good job of it you did.

It has been my experience that NO alcoholic wants to try aa.
ALL the alcoholics I've ever met say at the very onset
that they do not want to go to aa.
"My life is ruined-I have nothing but I CANNOT go to AA!"
If only they could see for themselves at the time ...
the insanity of what they're saying.
It's like saying -
I'm drowning - but I CANNOT use a floatation device and I CANNOT get out of the water! You have to help me so that I can continue drowning the way I want to!"

It's literally that insane.

But unfortunately, AA is the only solution I know.
And after a costly detox - you can't beat the price.

It's saddest for you because you're the 'unseen' in this story.
You want to help, and if your mother has the personality,
whether she drank all the time or not -
you have been raised by an alcoholic,
and that usually means
you were raised to 'be there' for them.

I don't know a way to 'make her want it'...
she might have farther to fall.
I implore you to find an al-anon group in YOUR best interests
because this sounds to me
as if it's going to get much MUCH worse
before it gets better.

And I'm more concerned at the moment
that you have a resource circle to draw
experience strength and hope from.

As far as being an alcoholic myself
I know for a fact that it's going to 'take what it takes'.

And that's the first hand knowledge I have.
So protect yourself in the meanwhile.

Sorry I couldn't do better for you.

11-06-2009, 05:04 PM	#6 (permalink)
barb dwyer same planet...different world Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: butte mt Posts: 10,933 Blog Entries: 7	{{{{{{{{{{{{{{[Mandee}}}}}}}}}}}}} How hard that must have been to write for you! But what a good job of it you did. It has been my experience that NO alcoholic wants to try aa. ALL the alcoholics I've ever met say at the very onset that they do not want to go to aa. "My life is ruined-I have nothing but I CANNOT go to AA!" If only they could see for themselves at the time ... the insanity of what they're saying. It's like saying - I'm drowning - but I CANNOT use a floatation device and I CANNOT get out of the water! You have to help me so that I can continue drowning the way I want to!" It's literally that insane. But unfortunately, AA is the only solution I know. And after a costly detox - you can't beat the price. It's saddest for you because you're the 'unseen' in this story. You want to help, and if your mother has the personality, whether she drank all the time or not - you have been raised by an alcoholic, and that usually means you were raised to 'be there' for them. I don't know a way to 'make her want it'... she might have farther to fall. I implore you to find an al-anon group in YOUR best interests because this sounds to me as if it's going to get much MUCH worse before it gets better. And I'm more concerned at the moment that you have a resource circle to draw experience strength and hope from. As far as being an alcoholic myself I know for a fact that it's going to 'take what it takes'. And that's the first hand knowledge I have. So protect yourself in the meanwhile. Sorry I couldn't do better for you. __________________ Knowledge is knowing that tomato is a fruit. Wisdom is not putting it in fruit salad.