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She's in conflict right now. She's not convinced she wants to quit. She may be thinking that she has a problem but maybe the solution is simply to control it better. She may be thinking she has a problem but she doesn't want to quit yet... maybe one day, but not now. She feels ashamed, guilty and she hates herself when she is sober... the only time she has relief from those emotions is when she drinks.
My Dad is an alcoholic. He quit for 13 years while I was growing up and only started drinking again when I was 18. He fell off the wagon when he lost his business. After he started drinking again, he lost a couple more jobs. We watched him self destruct for 12 years. I can't tell you how hard we tried to convince him to stop during that time. When he got his second DUI, he finally quit because he was scared of going to jail.
I don't have any advice on how to get someone to stop... In my experience it can't be done until they are ready. I had problems with alcohol myself, and after many years of trying to figure out how to outsmart alcoholism, I have finally decided that my best option is to quit. It has been a big spiritual change for me.
I would be curious if there is anyone on this site who is now sober because of an intervention type of thing. Or if some family member was able to get through to you to convince you to quit.
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