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MsMandee · 11-06-2009, 03:17 PM

Thank you for the welcomes. They made me smile at a time in my life when smiles have been drowned out by tears all too often.

To naive, thanks for the feedback. In my heart, I feel the same way, as far as agreeing with all you've said. But isn't it possible that there is at least a part of her who wants to change, though she may not be entirely ready to?

I had really hoped that the stunt she pulled was going to be her bottom, and it seemed to be that way, at least for a week or two. To her credit, though, the detox wasn't forced but it was coerced, I guess you could say. She was given the option as an ultimatum, I believe. But she also could have refused to go altogether, so I took her willingness as a willingness to change.

She actually detoxed for about 3 days before entering the facility. I was home with her and know by how sick she was that she was not drinking. Her withdrawals weren't terrible, but she was shaking, sweating, exhausted, and very nauseated.

I found her resolve to be reassuring - after all, she could have said, "Forget it," and went right on back to drinking. But I do believe the depression of being fired ANYWAY set her back quite a bit.

I'm rambling, but that's how I see it.

11-06-2009, 03:17 PM	#4 (permalink)
MsMandee Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 4	Thank you for the welcomes. They made me smile at a time in my life when smiles have been drowned out by tears all too often. To naive, thanks for the feedback. In my heart, I feel the same way, as far as agreeing with all you've said. But isn't it possible that there is at least a part of her who wants to change, though she may not be entirely ready to? I had really hoped that the stunt she pulled was going to be her bottom, and it seemed to be that way, at least for a week or two. To her credit, though, the detox wasn't forced but it was coerced, I guess you could say. She was given the option as an ultimatum, I believe. But she also could have refused to go altogether, so I took her willingness as a willingness to change. She actually detoxed for about 3 days before entering the facility. I was home with her and know by how sick she was that she was not drinking. Her withdrawals weren't terrible, but she was shaking, sweating, exhausted, and very nauseated. I found her resolve to be reassuring - after all, she could have said, "Forget it," and went right on back to drinking. But I do believe the depression of being fired ANYWAY set her back quite a bit. I'm rambling, but that's how I see it.