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Originally Posted by Mandjas  I was thinking of something like this:
We haven't spoken for a while but it doesn't mean I don't think about you, because I do and I hope you are keeping well.
I am starting to consider that our no contact is turning into a family rift now - something that neither Jas or I wanted but we respect that you don't wish to speak to us at the moment.
The reason I am contacting you is because we have decided to go home earlier than we originally planned. This is mainly due to the financial strain with storage & bills in Oz, full time nursery fees and bills for our rental - we aren't achieving any of the things we came over here to do and the lease on our house is up for renewal.
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If you respect what I want for my own child then I will of course be happy for you to come and see us, or to come and see you, or meet you somewhere so that you can spend time with him.
I couldn't live with my conscience if I left without letting you know what our plans are but I will leave it to you to decide if you want to see us before we leave in February. All we ask is that there is no drinking involved when you are around him. |
How about this version (with the snipped section taken out)? People who are not in recovery tend to get defensive if you mention that you go to Al-Anon -- which, if they've heard of it at all, is "that cult where you go and talk about me." Might be better to be more circumspect, and just stick to "you're welcome to see us before we go, as long as you don't drink."
Can't help it -- I'm an editor by trade
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