Thanks guys. Everytime I read your messages I kind of know how the sentence is going to end while I'm reading. Almost like I know what the answers should be but it really helps me to hear what you think.
I managed to REALLY open up to my husband tonight, about how I am feeling and what I'm thinking. It was very rational and I didn't cry or loose become hopeless (which is a big step for me) as I often become overwhelmed and get emotional. He tries to understand as best he can and he backs me completely - to what ever I decide to do. That's why your sharing means to much to me, that way I don't feel I am burdened with the decisions. As you all keep telling me, it's her choice! I have to make my own