[transformyself]

Yep, re-budget and let go. Leeeeeet goooooo.....

Can't you report him to CSS anyway? Every time he's late or doesn't pay, send the proof to them. Every Time.

But still, you can't get blood from a stone, or follow through from an A.

I came to this conclusion after a few weeks of nightmarish arguments and manipulations and broken promises and more of the same. Why was I surprised? He will not change. He will continue to blame me for breaking his commitments. Really.

I've been looking for more work because I've got the same problem and the only answer I can come up with is DO NOT EXPECT ANYTHING FROM AH. I need financial independence. Period. I need other childcare. I need to be completley and utterly independent of him. Then, and only then, will this frustration be decreased.

I know this is frustrating, but I've re-budgeted my life. Next up, more work for me. It's coming too, but I have to stay positive and keep moving.

It's exciting actually, looking for work and turning away from blaming him. yes, he's to blame, but I can really get stuck there. Furious.

You said you have a baby, so work may be more difficult for you, but try to be positive, try to just say, "i know the right solution will come my way," and it will.