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Originally Posted by Iwanttoheal  Hi Amanda
That sentence jumped right out at me - I am happy for you, home is the best place to be.
What I have learnt in my journey so far, is that I have to do what is right for me and that is okay. Choose to do what is right for you.
Remember, whatever you decide to do, you cannot control how your Mum chooses to react - if she feels spited or that you are punishing her, then that is her choice.
IWTHxxx |
i agree..do whats right 4 you. I wrote my mom a letter telling her that we were moving to a different state b/c there was no point telling her in person. She'd argue her case and make me feel so guilty and unloyal. I simply told her in a letter so that I'd avoid her constant insults about the decisions I need to make in my life...when my best interests have never been on the forefront of her mind. I figure, by telling her in a letter, at least it's better than not telling her at all. Surely, she completely ignored the issue that I plan on moving out of state, but that's her problem; not mine.
Again, it's not your responsibilty for how she responds. It's not your fault. She is failing to do her part in her relationships and there's nothing you can do about that. No one can make her choices for her. IF she wants to push her daughter's family away, then that is her right--as sad as it is and as much as it hurts.
I know in my mother's eyes, I am selfish for not picking up the phone, going along and faking a good relationship to the world, allowing myself to be used and abused, etc. Therefore, even thought she doesn't deserve her feelings to be considered b/c of her actions, I still at least try to be brief in a letter. I know my actions won't change her behavior in anyway...I could be the Pope or Mother Mary and it still wouldn't matter.
Take it easy.