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veryregretful · 11-05-2009, 08:47 AM

I just bought the book Codependant No More and am almost done with it. OMG it fits me to a T. I didn't realize how sick I really am. It listed in the book the things that we do as codies. The one that sticks in my head is the obsessiveness.

I obsess about obsessing.
I obsess about worrying.
I worry about worrying.
etc.

I was wondering where my obsessive behavior was coming from. I was never obsessive. It's from the person I has trying to save 20 years ago. and yes I knew he had a problem then and still married him and had twins with him. I grew up with an alcoholic father so probably that's where my codie behavior started. Where I learned it. He was diabetic and I was about 11 and I would come home school and he would I think be in a diabetic coma because he didn't take his insulin and he probably drank and I had to give him his shot. I had to remind him and make the needles ready for him. My mom worked evenings. He has since passed away. Well actually I was 16 and he was 47 when he passed a way. He was a dependant alki. He passed away almost 30 years now. wow. I just think of it as he is at peace now. No more pain.

This is a great book. I already learned alot about me and I hope this book will help me realize how I am at this moment and will help me raise my kids (They are 14). I don't want to be codependant with them.

I'm leaving the book laying around in case the kids want to pick it up and glance at it. They might have come codie behavior also.

I might have some obsessive behavior with this site. lololol It helps me immensely but I do have to get off now and do a little bit of work.

Thanks for reading and sorry so long. Once my fingers get going I can't get them to stop.

Take care!

11-05-2009, 08:47 AM	#1 (permalink)
veryregretful Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: ashamed ville Posts: 311	Codependant.No.More I just bought the book Codependant No More and am almost done with it. OMG it fits me to a T. I didn't realize how sick I really am. It listed in the book the things that we do as codies. The one that sticks in my head is the obsessiveness. I obsess about obsessing. I obsess about worrying. I worry about worrying. etc. I was wondering where my obsessive behavior was coming from. I was never obsessive. It's from the person I has trying to save 20 years ago. and yes I knew he had a problem then and still married him and had twins with him. I grew up with an alcoholic father so probably that's where my codie behavior started. Where I learned it. He was diabetic and I was about 11 and I would come home school and he would I think be in a diabetic coma because he didn't take his insulin and he probably drank and I had to give him his shot. I had to remind him and make the needles ready for him. My mom worked evenings. He has since passed away. Well actually I was 16 and he was 47 when he passed a way. He was a dependant alki. He passed away almost 30 years now. wow. I just think of it as he is at peace now. No more pain. This is a great book. I already learned alot about me and I hope this book will help me realize how I am at this moment and will help me raise my kids (They are 14). I don't want to be codependant with them. I'm leaving the book laying around in case the kids want to pick it up and glance at it. They might have come codie behavior also. I might have some obsessive behavior with this site. lololol It helps me immensely but I do have to get off now and do a little bit of work. Thanks for reading and sorry so long. Once my fingers get going I can't get them to stop. Take care!