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Originally Posted by incitingsilence  As the wife of a recovering heroin addict I totally agree with this….
Sounds like opiates, but then does it matter what he is taking as it is obvious he is altered…
What are you fears in this, what is it that upsets you when he uses….
And I could add in
Is he meeting his responsibilities…
Is he emotional and physically available…
Do you got out together, does he go out with friends…
Does he have passions ( his stuff ) in daily life and is he still engaging in them….
A yes to these would be good…
Is money missing, are things missing…
Does he talk in a comparing out way…I am not as bad as
Is there a lot of blame on others when he speaks…
A yes to these not so good, but still you won’t know what is up truly…
I wish you the best! |
My fears are that he will start using all the time again. I can´t understand why he needs to use to feel better about a situation or 'escape' even if it is only a couple of times a year. When I see him under the influence it makes me feel physically sick because he acts different he looks different, he´s not the same person. I find him irritating I feel so many different emotions. I wonder what on earth I am doing with him, I hate him when he is like that. but then the next day when he is fine again all my negative feelings aren´t as strong because I feel like he´s back. I get so angry when I try to talk to him because he lies and then it ends in an arguement he is just so defensive.
To the first set of questions the answer is yes. To the second sometimes he says its only every now and again its not as if I am off my head...he says I act and look the same as always...it´s like he doesn´t see what I see and he makes me feel like I am over reacting but I know I´m not, he does change.
I just need to find a way to really talk to him about it calmly without fighting but I find it so hard.
Thank you for all your advice it really helps as I can´t really talk to anyone about this.