I really, really do appreciate all of the words of wisdom on here and without a doubt would never have had the courage for no-contact over the last 5 weeks.
I have a new dilemma! After talking about the situation at length my husband and I have decided to go back to Australia. Basically every reason why we came has not worked out:
- We don't have extended family in OZ so we thought we would have a great time in the UK due to having both of our families here (baby sitters on tap). My husbands parents live a 2 hour drive away and obviously things have gone bad with my parents.
- Originally my son was supposed to be at home 2 days and nursery 3 days - but that was stopped very early on.
- We were living with my parents to save money to buy a house when we went back to Oz - now we are broke as have a house and lot's of bills to pay and full time nursery to pay for.
So the 3 main reasons we came here in the first place haven't worked out and neither of us are happy here, so yesterday we booked our flights to go home in 3 months.
Now! I feel a desire to tell my mom that we are leaving so that she makes a choice either way as to what she wants to do re seeing us or not. I would feel awful if I just continued to let her ignore me and leave without telling her. But I don't want her to feel that we are spiting her and it's a threat of punishment etc but I also do not want her to think that I have forgotten my boundaries and we can play happy families until we leave. I am throwing around a few idea's:
- Just leave it and see if they make contact in the future.
- Go and see them face to face and tell them, then leave them to think about their options (that need to comply with my boundaries)
- Tell my dad and see what he feels is the best way to approach it
- Write her another letter spelling it out for her.
I couldn't live with myself if I just up and went and never gave her any warning. She would have lost a moment that she can never get back - as I don't anticipate coming back to the UK for a LONG time.
Thoughts?
