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Any advice…
Love her as she is and accept her as she is and know that what is today doesn’t set tomorrow.
Detach as you need to for you but understand that how she chooses to live is her right and how you choose to react is your own insanity.
See her as capable, able to save herself.
Believe in her always.
Try not to help, meaning don’t do anything for her she is most capable of doing herself. Do not cover for her, lie for her or support her habit with cash…
Read up on enabling and how it is so much a part of the problem, not the solution.
Check your motives always.
Be human, meaning you can love her, you can see her, you can hug her but don’t attach conditions to anything. Ultimatums are sick, cutting off I find sick as well unless there is abuse involved. Remove the addiction, see the person and know most definitely that there are some really good hearted people in this world, and some evil f*cks and some just happen to be addicts.
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That is all it will take, one minute. Your eyes will open all too widely as you realize the sky didn’t just fall, but had been crumbling steadily all along. That what was under your feet were the stagnant remnants of disregarded chances.
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