Thank you
I've actually read more today about the relationship between instant gratification and alcoholics.
He says he's looking for long term with her, the rest of his life with her. Maybe he is being "real"...it is certainly what he seems to want. I will never know who he really is though. He was never real with me completely, so I don;t know if he's being real with her or an act.
I just find the switch in personality amazing....and yes, also infuriating, because it makes me feel like the fool.