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Welcome to the Sober Recovery Family!

I'm sorry that your mom has had a relapse and has had to detox again. This must have been hard on your sister and step dad and you. I'm sure there were a lot of incidents and some chaos in their family home prior to the two detoxes. Your step dad does sound like he has had all he is willing to put up with. It sounds like he is taking steps to take care of himself and your sister.

She is an adult that has made the choice to pick back up. She will have to deal with the consequences as an adult. She was able to live clean and sober for a few months and should be able to find support again. The best source of support for her at this time is other recovering alcoholics. They will understand what she is going through. A counsellor that specializes in addiction will also be able to help her learn new skills. Sometimes insurance is not available or does not cover addiction. There are other programs available to your mother if insurance is not an option. AA and other programs are free. But she has to do all the work herself. The nicest rehab facilities with all the luxuries of a resort won't keep her sober if she is not willing to work for her recovery. The real recovery starts on the inside. She has to choose the path.

How about you? You are an adult child of addicted parents. Have you considered counselling or joining a support group? You would be welcomed at Alanon meetings, or ACOA meetings.

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