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shauntennine · 11-03-2009, 07:42 PM

Hello everyone. This is my first post at sober recovery, and its not regarding myself. Although i am not sober by any measure possible, this post is mainly about my brother. I dont even know where to start. Im gonna come off looking like an idiot for some of the things i will say, looking niave for a lot more things, and looking like a bad brother for everything else.

I dont even know when it started. These Oxycontin pills are everywhere. Ive heard the term "white mans crack" to describe them from more than one person, and that basically sums up what these pills are to our society. They are the every-mans drug nowadays. Unfortunately, "Everyman" doesnt exclude my brother or I.

Im 21 and my brother is 23. A few months ago (maybe as many as 6-8), we both seperately started messing with Oxy 30's, even though ive known (and been really good friends with) people who were messing with them looong ago. We kinda kept it secret from each other, not usually asking each other for contacts to get them, never doing them together. But we both knew what was going on, or at least i did. Then, about 4 months ago my brothers best friend (whom he worked with at the time) lost his job because he couldnt function without Oxy's. They had worked together for almost 2 years, and known each other for much longer. Jon told me about his friends situation, and how he was all messed up and now had lost his job. We both joked about it, but it didnt mean much to us (or at least to me, because i thought i would never be hooked on them). I cant say the same for my brother Jon.

This life moves so fast and now things have progressed. In the past few months, i have slowly watched, and profited from, my brothers growing habit. I knew he was getting deeper and deeper into it, but i didnt stop him. He is terrible with money and borrows from me on occasion. But i am not terrible with money and when he borrows from me i make a contract and make him sign, which he rarely honors. My contracts entitle me to extra money if his payment is late or non existent. Ive probably made $200-$300 from him in the past few months, which I in turn had no problem spending on Oxy's because i felt it was money easily earned.

About 2 months ago, my sister (who is much older and lives on her own ofcourse) had a huge bottle of lortabs come up missing when only Jon was in proximity or could have possibly taken them. Sure enough, a few weeks later, he's trying to hawk lortabs to me for ridiculously cheep, out of the same bottle she described to me (girthy-er than a regular pill bottle). My mothers sister came to town a week or so later, and had her "pain medication" come up missing. That whole fiasco was blamed on me because its Jons real mother, and only my step mother, so naturally they suspected me before him. Whatever.

Durring all of this, he was living at home. We were actually sharing a room. But to allow him to move back in (he had previously been on his own), he had to agree that my parents would handle his money. Well its been coming up short, and he has new people that he owes money to every pay check, so they grew suspicious. I even expressed my concerns, when asked, that he was spending money on drugs. Apparently our (his) mother took my words lightly and chose to believe his over mine. Whatever again.

He proved he will steal from family, and he is constantly behind on payments for everything. Everytime i talk to him, he needs money for "gas and stuff" like wtf. He called me last night and told me how he received a check from his grandfather for $200 but couldnt cash it. If i give him $80, he will give me $100 tomorrow. How do i turn that down? Well i didnt. Crazy enough, he came over tonight with the hundred dollars, but immediately asked to borrow $20 more until next paycheck. The $20 was basically given to me for fronting him $80 for one day, so how do i say no to that? Two contracts in two days? You bet.

All of this, the day after i ran out of about a 10-pill, oxy supply. These things freaking suck. I was a sloth today at work. Im in college and have homework to do but i havent felt like doing ANYTHING all day. All because i dont have any of those pills. I made it through today without calling anyone or inquiring to buy them from anyone, and i hadnt planned on it. Thats what led me here. I googled "oxy addiction". After reading a few of you guys' stories, i dont ever want to buy another one of them. I feel empowerd, just by making that decision. But my brother is in trouble. It has probably been months since he went a day without them.... and partly because im an idiot and fell for his stupid 'i need money' schemes. Now he owes me $20 on the 13th.

He has dropped out of the fire acadamy, and now says he is joining the military in february. I think the military is his plot to get off the pills, really. I dont know what else to do except not loan him money. Whatever. After i get my $20, Im not gonna loan him a single red cent. I dont know..

11-03-2009, 07:42 PM	#1 (permalink)
shauntennine Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Posts: 2	Brother in distress.. what to do? Hello everyone. This is my first post at sober recovery, and its not regarding myself. Although i am not sober by any measure possible, this post is mainly about my brother. I dont even know where to start. Im gonna come off looking like an idiot for some of the things i will say, looking niave for a lot more things, and looking like a bad brother for everything else. I dont even know when it started. These Oxycontin pills are everywhere. Ive heard the term "white mans crack" to describe them from more than one person, and that basically sums up what these pills are to our society. They are the every-mans drug nowadays. Unfortunately, "Everyman" doesnt exclude my brother or I. Im 21 and my brother is 23. A few months ago (maybe as many as 6-8), we both seperately started messing with Oxy 30's, even though ive known (and been really good friends with) people who were messing with them looong ago. We kinda kept it secret from each other, not usually asking each other for contacts to get them, never doing them together. But we both knew what was going on, or at least i did. Then, about 4 months ago my brothers best friend (whom he worked with at the time) lost his job because he couldnt function without Oxy's. They had worked together for almost 2 years, and known each other for much longer. Jon told me about his friends situation, and how he was all messed up and now had lost his job. We both joked about it, but it didnt mean much to us (or at least to me, because i thought i would never be hooked on them). I cant say the same for my brother Jon. This life moves so fast and now things have progressed. In the past few months, i have slowly watched, and profited from, my brothers growing habit. I knew he was getting deeper and deeper into it, but i didnt stop him. He is terrible with money and borrows from me on occasion. But i am not terrible with money and when he borrows from me i make a contract and make him sign, which he rarely honors. My contracts entitle me to extra money if his payment is late or non existent. Ive probably made $200-$300 from him in the past few months, which I in turn had no problem spending on Oxy's because i felt it was money easily earned. About 2 months ago, my sister (who is much older and lives on her own ofcourse) had a huge bottle of lortabs come up missing when only Jon was in proximity or could have possibly taken them. Sure enough, a few weeks later, he's trying to hawk lortabs to me for ridiculously cheep, out of the same bottle she described to me (girthy-er than a regular pill bottle). My mothers sister came to town a week or so later, and had her "pain medication" come up missing. That whole fiasco was blamed on me because its Jons real mother, and only my step mother, so naturally they suspected me before him. Whatever. Durring all of this, he was living at home. We were actually sharing a room. But to allow him to move back in (he had previously been on his own), he had to agree that my parents would handle his money. Well its been coming up short, and he has new people that he owes money to every pay check, so they grew suspicious. I even expressed my concerns, when asked, that he was spending money on drugs. Apparently our (his) mother took my words lightly and chose to believe his over mine. Whatever again. He proved he will steal from family, and he is constantly behind on payments for everything. Everytime i talk to him, he needs money for "gas and stuff" like wtf. He called me last night and told me how he received a check from his grandfather for $200 but couldnt cash it. If i give him $80, he will give me $100 tomorrow. How do i turn that down? Well i didnt. Crazy enough, he came over tonight with the hundred dollars, but immediately asked to borrow $20 more until next paycheck. The $20 was basically given to me for fronting him $80 for one day, so how do i say no to that? Two contracts in two days? You bet. All of this, the day after i ran out of about a 10-pill, oxy supply. These things freaking suck. I was a sloth today at work. Im in college and have homework to do but i havent felt like doing ANYTHING all day. All because i dont have any of those pills. I made it through today without calling anyone or inquiring to buy them from anyone, and i hadnt planned on it. Thats what led me here. I googled "oxy addiction". After reading a few of you guys' stories, i dont ever want to buy another one of them. I feel empowerd, just by making that decision. But my brother is in trouble. It has probably been months since he went a day without them.... and partly because im an idiot and fell for his stupid 'i need money' schemes. Now he owes me $20 on the 13th. He has dropped out of the fire acadamy, and now says he is joining the military in february. I think the military is his plot to get off the pills, really. I dont know what else to do except not loan him money. Whatever. After i get my $20, Im not gonna loan him a single red cent. I dont know..