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nilotic7 · 11-03-2009, 05:45 PM

My mother is currently suffering from her first relapse since getting clean last June. She says (although who really knows) that she has been drinking heavily for the last six week and was just realized from a hospital supervised detox earlier this morning after being admitted on Saturday. My stepfather, who sounds as though he is at the end of his rope, has arranged for her to have an introduction/interview to an outpatient program that is three days a week on Monday and says that if she doesn't stick to this, go to AA meetings, and go to therapy sessions, that he will sue her for full custody of my 8 year old half sister. He has taken away her access to money (she is a stay at home mom and has no job/accounts of her own) and access to their vehicles. She is still pretty out of it on her last dose of valium provided by the hospital but I am expecting that things might get ugly...fortunately/unfortunately I live in a separate state and am not close at hand to help/hinder her recovery.
I am extremely worried that she is at home and feel she truly needs a new environment, such as inpatient treatment, to learn the coping skills she needs. My stepfather is just worried about money and I don't know that he is fully invested in her recovery. I am worried she will ruin her second marriage and not be strong enough to fight this disease. I am sad and feel helpless that there isnt' anything i can do to help her.
My father is also a recovery narcotics addict and has been clean and active in the program for several years. He gave my stepfather the # of someone to help him coordinate his insurance benefits and get her good care and he wouldn't call.
I'm sorry if I am rambling, but isn't there anything I can do? I haven't even spoken to her since Saturday but how can I just stand back and watch this trainwreck happen? I feel like I need to jump in but sort of know that I can't. This is heartbreaking....I thought I could find support through this horrible time here. Thank you for listening to me.

11-03-2009, 05:45 PM	#1 (permalink)
nilotic7 Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Pittsburgh, PA Posts: 5	Learning to understand My mother is currently suffering from her first relapse since getting clean last June. She says (although who really knows) that she has been drinking heavily for the last six week and was just realized from a hospital supervised detox earlier this morning after being admitted on Saturday. My stepfather, who sounds as though he is at the end of his rope, has arranged for her to have an introduction/interview to an outpatient program that is three days a week on Monday and says that if she doesn't stick to this, go to AA meetings, and go to therapy sessions, that he will sue her for full custody of my 8 year old half sister. He has taken away her access to money (she is a stay at home mom and has no job/accounts of her own) and access to their vehicles. She is still pretty out of it on her last dose of valium provided by the hospital but I am expecting that things might get ugly...fortunately/unfortunately I live in a separate state and am not close at hand to help/hinder her recovery. I am extremely worried that she is at home and feel she truly needs a new environment, such as inpatient treatment, to learn the coping skills she needs. My stepfather is just worried about money and I don't know that he is fully invested in her recovery. I am worried she will ruin her second marriage and not be strong enough to fight this disease. I am sad and feel helpless that there isnt' anything i can do to help her. My father is also a recovery narcotics addict and has been clean and active in the program for several years. He gave my stepfather the # of someone to help him coordinate his insurance benefits and get her good care and he wouldn't call. I'm sorry if I am rambling, but isn't there anything I can do? I haven't even spoken to her since Saturday but how can I just stand back and watch this trainwreck happen? I feel like I need to jump in but sort of know that I can't. This is heartbreaking....I thought I could find support through this horrible time here. Thank you for listening to me.