[kj3880]

There is a man in our area who is in his 50's and he has a thing for NA's younger women (teens-early 20's). Especially newcomers. If they come in new and crying, he makes a point to share after them in a "caring" type way, then runs up to them after the meeting to "comfort" them and offer rides to meetings, or even a "place to stay until you get on your feet, just as friends.." The last such woman shared with me that he kicked her out at 2am when he came into her room again and she put her foot down and told him "I'm not ever going to sleep with you so stop trying me." He told her "nothing in life is free, so get the he!! out of my house, now." She had to move with her two-year-old immediately!

Anyway, he was on the prowl again tonight, after a new 20-year-old who'd picked up her white key tag not five minutes before his approach. He ran up to her so fast none of the women could get in there.

I heard him asking her if she needed a ride and then he asked for her number. I went up and walked between and told her "Welcome-let me give you my number. I can give you a ride home if you need one." I then turned to him and said quietly "New women need to stick with women." He called me a "hater." Then, in the parking lot, he walked past me and muttered "I didn't know you turned into one of the brigade of NA old-timer, c@ck-block b!tches. I thought you had to have at least ten years clean to get that bitter."

Wow. I'm not bitter. Just concerned. I told him that and he said "There are no victims, only volunteers." I don't quite see it that way. To me, we are so confused and needy when we come in that we need some help, maybe some protection from a predator.

Has anyone else had this experience? Do you all think I overstepped my boundaries? I hate to see people use NA as a place to prey on the weak and naive, men or women.

Love,
KJ