[LaTeeDa]

Like many others, I came to this forum seeking answers. Answers to questions like "What should I do in this situation?" Or "How should I respond to that circumstance?" My natural M.O. was crisis management. I had lived with an alcoholic for so long, I had gotten very adept at micro-managing every aspect of life. So much so, that I lost sight of the big picture.

Today I was reminded that it's not about finding the answers. It's really about learning the right questions. SR, Alanon, therapy, etc. will only frustrate you if all you want are answers.

I know I wanted someone to tell me what to do. Tell me which action to take that would yeild the desired outcome. I didn't want to ask myself the hard questions. I had grown accustomed to my little box and I wasn't interested in venturing outside it, thank you very much. Just tell me what I need to do to make things work the way I want them to and I will be on my way, lol.

The answers are always found inside us. We just need to learn to ask the right questions. I am grateful for the insights I get from this forum every day.

L