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Originally Posted by LaTeeDa  The safety of the children is paramount. You must do whatever you have to do to keep them safe. Whether he is living with you or not, he cannot be allowed to put them in danger. It sounds like he has been drinking and driving with them even when you were "supervising" him. You cannot control what he does, you can only take the children out of harm's way. I understand not wanting the separation to be "ugly," but if that is what it takes to protect the children, then that is what it takes.
Sorry if this sounds harsh, but you are the adult. It is your responsibility to protect your children. Drinking and driving is illegal, let alone with children in the vehicle. You have every right to keep them from him if he is breaking the law and endangering their lives.
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Absolutely! Amen!
Do whatever you need to do. I wouldn't let him have visitation with the kids until he is sober. I also would not buy I will not drink when with the kids. He has already proven he cannot do that.
I think so many of us don't put our foot down on this issue to avoid conflict or to not hurt the alcoholics feelings. I couldn't give a hoot about the alcoholics feelings. His choices can have deadly consequences.