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veryregretful · 11-02-2009, 06:33 AM

I think you handled it good. I really don't know your situation but my AH has been gone for over 2 weeks and still actively drinking. I had a situation with his brother about a cellphone he was cancelling on our family plan and he needs to stay on it cuz I can't afford his portion. he made an agreement with me. Anyways, I called my AH to tell him what his brother was doing and what to do. He said what an idiot and blah, blah, blah. this was in the afternoon. By 8:30 at night he started calling me on the house phone first to see if I was home then the cell and to tell me that I was sleeping with his brother and that he saw his car in front of my house when it wasn't. I was very calm and not yelling at him. He kept calling till 2:30am. I know I shouldn't have answered the calls but I did and was still very calm. He yelled and whatever else he said. Didn't pay much attention because he was drunk and it was the same thing. Because of his phone calls he reminded me of why he was not living at home. I'm right now not going to call and text him. I am mad at him. We were talking about what we were going to do and try to reconcile but after that night I don't know anymore.

My AH knows what he has to do to come back home and I'm not going to remind him about it. I know he is not calling me because he's blaming me for everything. Oh well, I know I did nothing wrong. Yes, i will admit i did some stupid stuff but never hurt him. I was a b-word and i will admit that but not anything else. He has hurt me millions of times and the reason he's out is because of the verbal abuse to the kids and me.

I myself vow not to call him today or tomorrow. I plan on food shopping for the kids. coloring the gray out of my hair and taking the dog for a walk. I think that's all about what I can handle right now. At least I have a plan.

Trying not to call is very hard. But I didn't call yesterday and haven't done so yet so maybe the urge today will be less.

I doubt i helped but anyways you have a plan today and try to stick to your guns. I'm trying also but it is very hard.

P.S. I feel very bad about what my kids have been eating. hot pockets, cereal, grilled cheese, chicken nuggets and my kids are 14. I have to get on the ball and start cooking healthy for them and being thier mom

11-02-2009, 06:33 AM	#3 (permalink)
veryregretful Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: ashamed ville Posts: 133	I think you handled it good. I really don't know your situation but my AH has been gone for over 2 weeks and still actively drinking. I had a situation with his brother about a cellphone he was cancelling on our family plan and he needs to stay on it cuz I can't afford his portion. he made an agreement with me. Anyways, I called my AH to tell him what his brother was doing and what to do. He said what an idiot and blah, blah, blah. this was in the afternoon. By 8:30 at night he started calling me on the house phone first to see if I was home then the cell and to tell me that I was sleeping with his brother and that he saw his car in front of my house when it wasn't. I was very calm and not yelling at him. He kept calling till 2:30am. I know I shouldn't have answered the calls but I did and was still very calm. He yelled and whatever else he said. Didn't pay much attention because he was drunk and it was the same thing. Because of his phone calls he reminded me of why he was not living at home. I'm right now not going to call and text him. I am mad at him. We were talking about what we were going to do and try to reconcile but after that night I don't know anymore. My AH knows what he has to do to come back home and I'm not going to remind him about it. I know he is not calling me because he's blaming me for everything. Oh well, I know I did nothing wrong. Yes, i will admit i did some stupid stuff but never hurt him. I was a b-word and i will admit that but not anything else. He has hurt me millions of times and the reason he's out is because of the verbal abuse to the kids and me. I myself vow not to call him today or tomorrow. I plan on food shopping for the kids. coloring the gray out of my hair and taking the dog for a walk. I think that's all about what I can handle right now. At least I have a plan. Trying not to call is very hard. But I didn't call yesterday and haven't done so yet so maybe the urge today will be less. I doubt i helped but anyways you have a plan today and try to stick to your guns. I'm trying also but it is very hard. P.S. I feel very bad about what my kids have been eating. hot pockets, cereal, grilled cheese, chicken nuggets and my kids are 14. I have to get on the ball and start cooking healthy for them and being thier mom