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husbandofacoa · 11-01-2009, 08:59 AM

Thanks for your perspective.

No she doesn't really admit the problem. She won't go to counciling. She went with me for approx 5 visits. She spent most of the time trashing me and trying to win the counciler over to her side. I realized after a couple of visits that the counciler sees this kind of behavior all the time. In the last meeting he started to work the conversation to her and her background. That was it and she never would go back.

I continue in my program (alanon). It does indeed help to call her hand and not stand for the BS. She is not going to change until she hits bottom and it is obvious to me that her bottom is way, way farther down that mine was.

I would like for this to work because we have children, but I am sick and tired of the games and the dishonesty.

Again, thanks for your response. It gives me hope.

11-01-2009, 08:59 AM	#3 (permalink)
husbandofacoa Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 89	Thanks for your perspective. No she doesn't really admit the problem. She won't go to counciling. She went with me for approx 5 visits. She spent most of the time trashing me and trying to win the counciler over to her side. I realized after a couple of visits that the counciler sees this kind of behavior all the time. In the last meeting he started to work the conversation to her and her background. That was it and she never would go back. I continue in my program (alanon). It does indeed help to call her hand and not stand for the BS. She is not going to change until she hits bottom and it is obvious to me that her bottom is way, way farther down that mine was. I would like for this to work because we have children, but I am sick and tired of the games and the dishonesty. Again, thanks for your response. It gives me hope.