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welcome dreamer!
it is typical behavior of an alcoholic to want to sweep the past behavior under the carpet. mine used to say "that's in the past, forget it." however, how could i forget it when it remained unresolved and also, he was still drinking so it could happen again?
this made me daft...and i found my thoughts quite occupied with "is he drinking?", "what's he doing?", "is he safe?" "will he appear drunk or sober?" etc.
imagine if all that energy that we spend in our mind obsessing about our alcoholic was channelled elsewhere? like, into what we what to accomplish with our life?
good for you for being true to your own feelings and not letting him pester you into intimacy which you don't feel.
i think it's great that he has already come and taken his stuff from your house. i think it's great that he has his own house. that should make things easier for you, as you already have your own space.
perhaps try defining what your boundaries are with respect to your ABF.
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