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I think that it is good for the kids to tell their Dad how they feel, as long as it's their feelings and not yours.
My boys talk via cell phone with their Dad, my daughter won't.
My firsy year with out mt husband was hard, it got beeter in the sense taht I moved on, however when I see other families together, it hurts. I don't want to be alone forever either, who does? but for right now I'm raising the kids, my time will come later...maybe.
I too went thru the motions, did "what I was supposed to do" and still deal with my emotions daily. It will be four years Febuary taht we seperated. I still miss him. The fun times, the good man that he is, when sober,.... he has been sober for close to 2 years now, and I'm happy for him. He lives far away with his girlfriend, I live in the same city with the kids.
Peolple ask"would you take him back? Now that he is sober?" I say no because I'm happy, and I am and you will be too. I think that you just have to make up your mind to be. your kids will do great no matter what or where they are, you will see to that, my kids are awsome and I get complements all the time.
You will heal we all do fro the most part, it's okay to sit at the computer sand get some"me time" the kids will be just fine if not better because you have taken the time for yourself.
I wish you luck and my prayers..... it will get better.
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