I believe alcoholics have all the feelings anyone else has, the difference is their ability to cope with them. When I have feelings I deal with them, get them out there and work through them. If I feel I have hurt someone I talk to them, explain my feelings and hopefully mend the relationship. The alcoholic (at least my husband) takes those feelings that he doesn't know what to do with and turns on himself. He drinks to cope with them. He isn't a talker and was raised to "be a man" which means "feelings" are for sissys. Just because they don't tell us their feelings doesn't mean they don't have them.