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I think my xabf might be trying to manipulate me and take advantage of my somewhat new relationship with a totally incredible church and my relationship with Jesus. Tell me what you guys think...
xabf calls yesterday making some snide remark about always being involved with church activities, next message a minute later is about the same. Today he calls and leaves a message crying telling me about his nephew (feel so cold saying this but it's his ex wife's newphew really that I suspect he rarely saw) who is very ill, he needs a heart transplant and has now had a stroke. He requested that I keep him in my prayers, which obviously I will do.
I have no desire to get back into this man's life. It's been over a year since I've even seen him face to face. And since being Baptized this year and finding a church where I volunteer and wholeheartedly enjoy myself, feel welcome and not judged and feel that God is healing me, I'm just so light hearted. In other words his toxic crap just doesn't interest me anymore. I speak to xabf from time to time, expressing the joy in my heart. Our conversations are never long and I never venture off course with him.
But tonight I do feel particularly troubled by his call. But I know you guys will understand my position. It seems awful that a person could use a horrific illness as a ploy to draw someone into their madness, but I have an inkling that the addiction has no qualms about such a thing.
what do you guys think?
My Lord commands me to forgive but I know it's also ok to set boundaries.
Please pray with me about this little boy and his family.
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