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Originally Posted by DesertEyes  Hi there reverse 
That line is for people who are trying to _change_ their family member, which obviously you are not trying to do. There's another line that says "Take what you like, and leave the rest", which means that the program of recovery needs a little fine-tuning to fit each of our specific needs.
Sounds perfectly correct to me
What works for me is to see my parents as the biological accident of my creation. In my case, they didn't do for me anything I could not have got at an orphanage. Like yours, I would have been treated better at an orphanage. They were just the sperm and egg donors, nothing more.
I have found other folks that are kind and decent, and we've sort of "adopted" each other. They are my "family of choice", and the ones I do love and respect.
All of which is my long winded way of saying; yeah I agree with you.
Mike |
Thank you so much for clarifying those things for me. It's weird because I was so wrapped up in the manipulation tactics of my mother that often times, I couldn't see it for what it was, i.e. the guilt trips, lying, excuses, etc. It's difficult for me to not allow her to come see my newborn daughter-especially since I have no friends or family. I have a few friends that i work with, but i don't know them well enough to invite them to a b-day party or things like that. I just don't want my kids to be lonely, but I def. don't want to see my mother. Anyway..thx again, Mike.
-Amanda