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wanting · 10-30-2009, 10:12 AM

You want to have a commitment from a known cheater and addict who doesn't really seem like he's all that into you. As someone whose alcoholic STBX-husband had affairs, it's really difficult for me to be compassionate toward people who engage in this type of behavior. But, I can bet you that things will go one of two ways in your situation: 1 - He will be serious about his recovery and will realize that he cannot be with you, or 2 - He will not be serious about his recovery and you will find out what it's like to be with an addict who cheats on you. Of course, you could always choose Door 3 - Start your own recovery and figure out what it is about yourself that makes you think you should be with a person like this to the extent that you were willing to destroy two families over it. Al-anon would be a good start.

10-30-2009, 10:12 AM	#2 (permalink)
wanting Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Portland, OR Posts: 534	You want to have a commitment from a known cheater and addict who doesn't really seem like he's all that into you. As someone whose alcoholic STBX-husband had affairs, it's really difficult for me to be compassionate toward people who engage in this type of behavior. But, I can bet you that things will go one of two ways in your situation: 1 - He will be serious about his recovery and will realize that he cannot be with you, or 2 - He will not be serious about his recovery and you will find out what it's like to be with an addict who cheats on you. Of course, you could always choose Door 3 - Start your own recovery and figure out what it is about yourself that makes you think you should be with a person like this to the extent that you were willing to destroy two families over it. Al-anon would be a good start.